Hi Friends – recently I’ve discovered five things I want to leave behind in 2016. We are on a break from our regularly scheduled podcast so I thought I’d pop in and share some very candid thoughts from the couch – this topic being one of them.
Currently we are snowed in. Again. It’s a Monday afternoon and I’m sipping coffee out of the mug that Coach Joette gave me for Christmas. Nate and Ajah are resting on the couch. Three snow storms in one month has made me stir-crazy! So I’m writing. Because that’s what one does when she can’t rest any longer.
Earlier this month I had a 10-day staycation. It was lovely. During this time I did some deep, introspective personal inventory of what went well in 2016, what didn’t go well in 2016, and what needs to change. I enjoyed a virtual retreat with my very own life and business coach and a group of women who are focused on living their lives with intention. It was both eye opening and invigorating.
Shortly before my staycation began, my iPhone DIED so bad that it cannot be revived at all. I believe this was an answer to prayer actually, even though it was quite inconvenient. It happened the night before my birthday so when my old phone was hooked up again – for text messages and phone calls ONLY, mind you – I had no idea who was contacting me so I’d have to ask, “who is this?” It was weird. This was also exactly what I needed to realize the things to leave behind in 2016…
1. The addiction to my iPhone
It’s sick how attached to this thing I had become. Apps are a great thing. Technology is a great thing. I’m so very thankful for all of it. But it steals precious things from me and I’m not okay with this anymore. So, to help me leave this addiction in 2016, I’m putting some personal boundaries up. Like a 9pm technology curfew and an app rule so I only put a few apps on my phone and all of the business apps will stay on my iPad.
These boundaries are going to be a bit of a challenge for me. However, I’ve already spent most of the month without my phone and without those apps and it has been oh-so-peaceful. If you’re identifying with this at all, I invite you to join me in leaving this addiction behind in 2016.
When people that were once close to me end up hurting me deeply, I have a tendency to clam up and get critical of them. (Gasp! Come on now…I know I’m not the only one.) It’s a superficial, self-protective tactic that has to stop. God’s been working on my heart about this and it is time to leave it behind.
3. Jealousy & Comparison
This goes hand in hand with #2. When I criticize those who have hurt me deeply, it opens the door for compassion and jealousy. It’s a vicious cycle! Ick! It’s time for this to GO.
It might not always seem like it, but there are some fears creeping around inside of me that have probably gotten the better of me in 2016. Thankfully, a brand new year is just around the corner! I’m choosing to leave behind the fear of failure, the fear of succeeding, and the fear of not being good enough. Yes, I’ve left these fears behind in other years, but with each new level of responsibility come possible new fears to overcome. I’m stepping into something NEW and telling these fears to pack their bags. They are officially evicted!
This is the biggest thing I’m leaving behind in 2016. Raychel calls me “a recovering micro-manager.” Eww. Nobody likes to think of themselves that way. The thing is, when you distrust the people around you, it ultimately shows that you distrust God. I DO trust God to provide for me and take care of me, but this year I let control take over and shoved TRUST to the wayside. During my staycation, God talked to me A LOT about this. So my theme for 2017 is: TRUST.
Here’s the funny thing about this theme – activating TRUST will automatically make things like criticism, jealousy & comparison, and fear fall away. It will require me to become more intentional with my time with God. And I’m so looking forward to this. My soul is desperately thirsting for this. I am ready.
What about you?
What are the things you need to leave behind in 2016? There are only a few days left to assess it all before you ring in the New Year. I encourage you to take some time and ask God to show you what needs to be left behind so you can step into all of the NEW things that He has for you in 2017.
And if you identify at all with the things I’ve mentioned here, I want to personally invite you to spend the day with us on February 18th for Beautiful Wholeness 2017. I’m going to spend some time going deeper into this for the very first session of the day, and I know that Coach Raychel has some great insight that she’ll be sharing that day too. Early Bird Tickets are on sale NOW at www.bigbluecouchcoaching.com/beautifulwholeness.
No matter what you choose to do, I want you to know that I believe in you. God believes in you too. You’ve got everything you need, already IN you, to get started. The only thing you’ve got to do is spread your wings…and jump.
Mandy B. Anderson is the Co-Founder and CEO of Big Blue Couch® Coaching, LLC. Born with Cystic Fibrosis, Mandy has walked the road of an Overcomer her entire life. She is passionate about helping others rise above their circumstances, be brave, and live beautifully whole. She is the author of the books, In Sickness and In Health: Lessons Learned on the Journey from Cystic Fibrosis to Total Health , Unashamed: Embracing Your Authentic Self in a Cookie Cutter World, and She Who Overcomes. Mandy lives in North Dakota with her husband, Nate, and their fur-baby, Ajah B.