“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” ~2 Corinthians 1:3-4
We use many words to describe the painful experiences in our lives. Maybe you call them troubles, tests, trials, afflictions, or even seasons. I like to use the word “storms.” Storms come in with little or no warning, can cause brokenness and devastation, and will change everything in mere seconds.
After a storm rages through our lives we are left with broken pieces. When we choose to accept the process of restoration those wounds start to heal. And, Sometimes after a wound heals a scar remains. Scars are reminders. Sometimes scars are on the outside; but, more often than not your scars will not be visible to the naked eye. Your deepest wounds on under the surface.
I can’t tell you how many times I have had people tell me, “I had no idea you were even struggling,” or “I didn’t realize your marriage was that broken,” when they hear my story. When I look back at pictures during the worst seasons of my life I can see the light is gone from my eyes…but on the outside things looked OK. I didn’t look sick. The truth is, when you look at someone who has overcome the odds you will not always see the scars her body. You will see her scars on her mind and her heart.
Scars are reminders. They remind us of why we are the way we are. They remind us of who we’ve been. They remind us of the lessons we have learned on life’s journey. They remind us of the things and people we’ve lost. They remind us of our courage and God’s faithfulness. Scars are a reminder that even the deepest wounds eventually heal.
It’s for this reason we have to embrace the cracks that are making us whole. We have to get really good at accepting every chapter of our story, even the dark ones, because this is how we comfort our sisters, mothers, daughters, and best friends. When we can share the truth about the scars in our lives we give another woman courage. When we bravely share our weaknesses another woman finds the strength to take one step forward into the light. The Bible tells us to comfort those with the same compassion we have been comforted with. We can’t do that if we can’t embrace the scars left behind.
It’s time to appreciate and celebrate those hard earned battle wounds! Your scars are important. You scars are proof that we can all do hard things. Don’t hide them. Don’t pretend like they are not there. Embrace the scars. Embrace the healed areas of your life. Comfort others who are walking a similar path. Your scars are healing to those around you. Show them they are not alone and that someday they will have scars too instead of gaping wounds.
Raychel Chumley is a Life Coach, Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur. She is the Co-Founder of Big Blue Couch™ Coaching, LLC. After finding healing and purpose from a troubled marriage, toxic friendships, and postpartum OCD, Raychel is on a mission to break bondage and speak truth over other women. She is the author of the book and coaching audios, Celebrate Your Man and the upcoming Bible Study, Raychel lives in North Dakota with her husband, Brandon, and their three children.
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