The Practice of Patience
By: Raychel Chumley
Patience [noun] the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.
An ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay:
Quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence.
I have a confession to make… I am not a patient woman by nature. Not even a little bit. I don’t rest easily. I hardly ever slow down. I demand answers and quick responses. I’m annoyed when things don’t go my way. And even-tempered? Ha! It’s a character flaw I have to continually work on. Daily. Patience is a practice for me. Maybe it is for you too.
“Why would you do that?”
“What is taking so long?!”
These are phrases I use a lot. These phrases come out of my mouth in moments of frustration. Like, when I’m waiting on a dawdling five year old, I’ve had a long day at the office, or I’m at the end of my rope with endless demands and constant chatter. Ugh.
Thankfully patience doesn’t require perfection.
I don’t have to be perfect to be more patient. I can develop this character quality slowly but surely with a few helpful Truths to keep me moving forward.
Here are a few things I remind myself of when it comes to the practice of patience:
#1 God’s timing is rarely the same as mine.
It says right in the dictionary that patience is “An ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay.” If I have learned anything in the past 35 years, it’s that God’s timing is rarely the same as mine.
He promises me a lot of thing like: He promises to hear me (Micah 7:7), He promises to deliver me (Psalm 34:4), and He promises me things will work out for my good (Romans 8:28). He doesn’t promise me a time frame. If I want to practice patience I need to work on my annoyance when things are not going my way in the time I want them too.
#2 Complaining Doesn’t Help.
I know I know. You are probably thinking, “Duh, Raychel I know that.” But seriously when things don’t happen in my time, or how I want them to, I complain and get irritated and completely lose my poo. I need to be reminded to NOT complain. So, I’m reminding YOU too. A patient woman is does not complain. Don’t give up and pout. Put on your big girl panties and keep moving forward.
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
#3 Hope. Always Hope.
One of the synonyms of the word patience is “endurance”. The only way I know how to endure is to have HOPE that there is something at the end of your waiting and hardship worth waiting for. Does that make sense? What I mean is that its hope is what keeps you from complaining and giving up when your patience is waning. Hope, dear friend, is patience’s best friend.
Give yourself grace when you fall down.
When you give up, lose hope, or became an irrational mess. Give yourself some grace. You’re human. It’s OK. Just pick yourself up and dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
And, if you want some extra help in this area I want to invite you to join us for Beautiful Wholeness on February 17, 2018. Beautiful Wholeness™ is a group coaching, one-day event for all women designed to help you erase the lies and labels, gather your courage, and build the skills you need to grow into the Beautifully Whole woman you were designed to be! You can grab your tickets HERE!
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
The truth is patience is a practice for all of us. We don’t know how to be patient naturally. It’s a character quality that takes a lifetime to master. But, it’s worth it. Because, like Aristotle says, patience really does bear great fruit.
Raychel Chumley is the Co-Founder and President of Big Blue Couch® Coaching, LLC. As a Life Coach, Author, and Speaker, Raychel is passionate about breaking bondage and speaking truth over women who find themselves in toxic relationships and broken circumstances. She is the author of the Bible Study, Unbroken: Embracing the Cracks that are Making You Whole. Raychel has a BS in Psychology and Biblical Counseling from Liberty University. She lives in North Dakota with her family.