Patience is Better Than Pride
By: Mandy B. Anderson
“The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.”
~Ecclesiastes 7:8, NIV
Patience is better than pride. Let’s be honest – no woman wants to admit that Pride exists in her own heart. It hurts, so we ignore it and pretend it’s not there. Yet, letting go of pride is vital to living the unrushed, beautifully whole life we’ve all been designed for. You might be tempted to close this blogpost right now, but dear friend, I urge you to keep reading and let the following truths slice through the lies hidden in your own heart…
We all carry pride from time to time. Even me – especially when I want to prove to someone that I’m right and they are wrong! I’m learning to recognize when my words start to sound sharp and when I am close to blowing up over small, petty things. I’m learning to lean in to the discomfort of learning in the moments when someone close to me is telling me how I can do something better. It’s a process and we will fall many times on the journey!
Pride looks shiny from far away, but up close it is nothing but a cheap imposter. It makes you think you are being confident when really you are working overtime to hide the insecurities that creep up every hour.
Pride deceives you. More than anyone else, pride deceives YOU because it is hard to identify it in your own life. Other people can see pride from a mile away! However, it is hidden from our plain sight because pride doesn’t want to look in the mirror to admit. Pride doesn’t want to grow and be better – be patient; it would much rather be the one holding the mirror and pointing the finger.
Pride has many faces. It is defensive and self-seeking. It is unteachable and stubborn. Pride is impatient, hard-hearted, and deceiving. It is boastful, dishonorable to others, filled with self-pitty, and obsessed with getting all of the attention! Pride always tears others down, compares, and screams with insecurity.
Overcoming pride requires us to be alert, conscious of our words and thoughts, and constantly guarding our hearts. We start by becoming aware that it exists, and then we make new choices. We choose to be vulnerable. We choose to look in the mirror and take a gut-honest assessment of our own thoughts, habits, and actions. Only then can we identify where pride has crept in.
Patience looks so different from pride. Patience is kind, diligent, and persistent. It is self-controlled. Patience perseveres and has fortitude. Patience has staying power because it doesn’t give up! Patience steps back and tries to understand things from another person’s point of view – even when you don’t agree with their choices. Patience chooses words carefully and treats others with respect and honor. Always.
Patience is better than pride.
Dear Friend, I encourage you to look in the mirror and get clear on what has been hiding in your heart. If you see any trace of pride hiding there, get rid of it. Patience looks much better on you.