Not That Happy For Everyone

Not That Happy For Everyone
The Girls on the Big Blue Couch™ Show
Episode 36

Sometimes the holiday season is not that happy for everyone. In the midst of the family get togethers, company parties, festive decorations, and all the gifts many people struggle with overwhelming depression this time of year.

A google search for the phrase “depression during the holidays” brings up 26,900,000 results!

If you are one of those people who deals with seasonal depression don’t lose hope there are some steps you can put into place to help you weather the holidays and feel a little better – and this episode will give you those steps and encourage you along the way. You are note alone…

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Disclaimer: Mandy and I are not licensed therapists or counselors. We do not diagnose or treat depression or anxiety. The tips we will be sharing with you are ones we found helpful when we were walking through seasons of depression. This information should not be used in place of a doctors advice or counseling services. We urge you to get professional help if you require it. ~Raychel

5 Skills For Battling Seasonal Depression

  1. strong relationships
  2. an attitude of gratitude
  3. grace to ask for help
  4. essential oils and vitamins
  5. movement and real food

Strong Relationships

Unless you’ve walked the road of depression, whether through your own experience or through helping someone else, it can be difficult to understand the depth of sadness and darkness that envelops a person.

You need to have strong relationships that we can rely on during our darkest days. People we can be vulnerable with. People who will know when to say something and when not to. People who understand that depression isn’t something you can hurry up and get over, but rather something you must walk through.

An Attitude of Gratitude

We get more of what we focus on. Gratitude is a great way to help relieve depression symptoms. Studies support that gratitude actually helps improve depression symptoms and boost happiness.

Scientists say that these techniques shift our thinking from negative outcomes to positive ones, elicit a surge of feel good hormones like dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin, and build enduring personal connections.” Psychology Today

To overcome depression, you must make it a habit to write down the good. Be thankful for the little things, like those days when you wear jeans instead of pajamas. Find something to be grateful for. Practicing an attitude of gratitude will help pull you out of depression faster. A quick way to do this is a gratitude journal where you write 3-5 things you are thankful for every single day.

Grace To Ask For Help

There is no shame in asking for help, even professional help. Sometimes there is a biological, hormonal, or chemical issue that needs to be addressed. Get the help YOU need

During this season in my life, I reached out and started going to a professional counselor every week for several weeks in a row, and then once a month. As my health was improving and my body became stronger, I found that this weekly meeting helped strengthen my mind and emotions. It helped me build my confidence – something that usually gets shaken when you battle depression.  Give yourself the grace and permission to ask for help. There’s no shame in that. ~Mandy

Essential Oils

For some people essential oils can help boost their moods and help lesson some of the symptoms of depression and anxiety. We’ve both used (and continue to use) essential oils to lift our spirits and keep focused when we are feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

Mandy: Some of my favorite essential oils for combating depression and anxiety include Valor, Frankincense, Joy, Harmony, Peace & Calming Blend,

Raychel: My favorite combo was Grapefruit and Clary Sage. I also liked any citrus combo and lavender/peppermint.

Rubbing a few drops behind your ears and on your wrists helps stabilize your mood, plus it doubles as perfume. Make sure you are getting your oils from a reputable company and look for therapeutic quality oils!

Movement and Real Food

Exercise and eating real food are two very important skills that help battle depression.

When it comes to moving more, even a simple 20 minute walk outside can help you feel better! Find something that you enjoy that moves your body more. This will increase your endorphins naturally which will boost your mood.

Pay attention to what you eat as well. Processed foods often have harmful chemicals that negatively affect your brain and your mood. To battle depression effectively, fuel up with fresh salads, homemade soups with yummy fresh veggies, and even smoothies packed with powerful greens like kale, spinach, kiwi, and apples.

When you combine all five of these skills, you’ll be well on your way to enjoying the holiday season instead of dreading it. Remember: it might take some time. There will be days that are harder than others. Apply these skills anyway. They are helping whether you see immediate results or not.

And most of all…never give up. The sun will shine again my friend!