Mommy Needs a Timeout

Portrait tired falling asleep woman employee holding cup coffeeSometimes a mommy needs a time out!

Do you know what I mean? You love the little darlings but sometimes you just need a break. Can I get an Amen?? Even if you don’t have children in your home you probably know exactly what I mean. Sometimes life just gets so overwhelming *cough* election season *cough*,  you just need a time out!  

A break to just breathe and clear your thoughts. An interruption from the overwhelming feelings of “I suck,” and “This is too hard.” A chance to just sip your chardonnay, in your yoga pants (or sans pants), without interruptions,  and binge watch Netflix. Is this too much to ask?

 Fear and fatigue can obscure the comfort that God offers his overwhelmed daughters, and even obscure his presence altogether. We fear we aren’t enough, that we’re not doing this mom thing right-certainly we aren’t doing it like her. We’re biting off more than any mom can chew if we’re constantly worried and comparing ourselves to others.  We must say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid” (Heb. 13:6). (Excerpt taken from the book Always There: Reflections for Mom on God’s Presence)

We’ve all been there!  Maybe you are a mommy who needs a timeout, too! You are a stay at home mom, juggling three little ones, and feeling exhausted and desperate for adult interaction. Or, you are a working or single mom trying to find the right balance between career and family. It’s even possible you are a swingin’ single woman building your career and life and can’t seem to overcome the daily demands on your time.  For whatever reason you find yourself overwhelmed, exhausted, and ready to blow.

I want to share with you three things to remember when you are feeling overwhelmed…

1.Focus on What is Necessary and Possible. 

Doing only what is necessary and possible in each moment is all you can ask of yourself. You are not meant to be superwoman, supermom, or any other superhero. You are a beautiful, talented woman full of gifts and abilities, but you are not perfect. None of us are. When you are feeling overwhelmed, slow down and take a moment to breathe and think about what is necessary and possible in that moment. Nothing more. Nothing less. Only what is necessary and possible.

2. Get Some Rest. 

Fatigue is real and causes you to be short-tempered, impatient, and mean. It can cause you to do things that in your right mind you would never do. Rest is so important that God even commands us to rest! Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28) Don’t set yourself up for failure. You can wait to go to the store one more day. The dishes can pile up in the sink. The most important thing when you are feeling overwhelmed is to get some rest.

3. Take a Break

When you are feeling overwhelmed find a way to take a break. Like immediately. At the very least, pray for strength! Pray for God to help you make it through the day, the next hour… the next 10 minutes. Put a movie on for the kids, put the baby in their crib, and find a quiet spot in the house and just breathe for a few minutes. Call a babysitter to watch the kids for a few hours. Call your best girlfriend and go out for coffee (or cocktails!) It’s OK and necessary to take care of yourself emotionally and mentally. Motherhood, and let’s face it womanhood, is too hard to go it alone. 

We all get overwhelmed from time to time. And, sometimes a mommy needs a timeout! When these feelings come remember to do only what is necessary and possible, get some rest, and get some help. That way, the next time you can’t possibly take one more second of your usually blissful life you won’t run out the door screaming “Free at last! Free at last!”

Or you can… I won’t judge 😉




Raychel Chumley is a Life Coach, Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur. She is the Co-Founder and President of Big Blue Couch® Coaching, LLC. After finding healing and purpose from a troubled marriage, toxic friendships, and postpartum OCD, Raychel is on a mission to break bondage and speak truth over other women. She is the author of the home study program Celebrate Your Man and the Bible Study, Unbroken: Embracing the Cracks that are Making You Whole. Raychel lives in North Dakota with her husband, Brandon, and their three children.