Letter To My Daughters
The Girls on the Big Blue Couch™ Show
Today’s episode is a very special one as we take a moment to go back and focus on a touching letter that Raychel wrote for her daughters. Listen to this often, let it sink into your heart, and print it out to pray it over your girls and the little girls in your life!
Letter to My Daughters:
To my Beautiful Girls,
More than anything in the world I want you both to have a vibrant relationship with Jesus. Not the stuffy, religious, legalistic relationship you often see in the church; but, a genuine friendship and dependency on the One who created you.
Outside of this relationship I want you to have a healthy self-concept. You see the two go together. You cannot understand your worth if you don’t understand the one who makes you worthy.
I want you to understand who you are and who you’ve been created to be at a very early age. I want you to love and appreciate your body as the beautiful temple God created. I don’t want you to be ashamed. I don’t want you to hide. I don’t want you to feel disgusting. I want something very different for you.
You see, this is an issue that most women struggle with. Many women have been told lies by the people in their lives they love the most. They can no longer see the truth about who they are. The live with a horrible label of “Unworthy” day in and day out. This causes them to live their lives plagued by doubt and fear.
God didn’t give you a spirit of fear. He gave you a spirit of power, of love, and of a sound mind. I want you to use that power to change the world. Because the world is a very broken place, and it will give you very mixed messages about what it means to be a girl…
The world will tell you that to be powerful you cannot be feminine. To be feminine you cannot be powerful…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that women cannot have genuine friendships because we are always competing with each other…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that your body is only good for one thing, sex…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that if you are not 5’11” and 130 lbs. you are not beautiful…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that you cannot balance faith, family, and work without sacrificing yourself…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that you are not smart enough to enjoy math and science, or to do a “man’s job”…that is a lie.
The world will tell you to do whatever you want; as long as it makes you happy…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that being a follower of Christ is a waste of time and that God doesn’t care about you…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that you that you are a bad wife and mom if you care for yourself…that is a lie.
The world will tell you that you will only find self-worth through a man…that is a lie.
You see girls there are a lot of lies being told in our world. My job as your mom is to help you see through the lies to discover the truth. I pray you continue the wide-eyed innocence I see in your little faces right now, as long as possible. I will fight to protect that and allow you to be children to the best of my ability.
But, I want to prepare you for the reality that is our fallen world.
Sometimes life is going to be hard. People will say bad things about you, label you, abuse you, neglect you, judge you, and hurt you. It will sometimes be the ones you love and trust the most that will hurt you the most. I’m so sorry girls.
I will shelter you from this pain as much as I can; but, when I can’t my mission will be to teach you to forgive and to find your source of worth and truth in Jesus Christ. He is the only one who will never let you down. God is the only one who can tell you your full potential and worth. He is the one who designed you and He is the one who has great plans for you.
You will struggle with self-worth from time to time. We all do. You see, if we were always confident, always sure, and always right, we wouldn’t need God. He is your source of power and His strength is made perfect in your weakness. I know this doesn’t make sense right now but someday it will.
When you stand in front of the mirror I don’t want you to see your “flaws.” I want you to see the beautiful body God has created for you. When you stand on a scale I don’t want you to judge your worth by the number you see. When you see the covers of magazines I want you to see past the airbrushing and tweaking and never judge yourself by manufactured beauty.
My darling daughters, perfection is overrated. I want you to learn how to admit your mistakes and limitations and ask others for help. Don’t be embarrassed or afraid of failure. It’s in the darkest seasons of your life you will learn the most about who you are and who God is.
Boys can be a pain. Girlfriends can be a pain. Learning how to have relationships with other people is hard. This is especially true during the teen years. They are trying to find themselves just like you are. Knowing who you are in Christ can make this process easier to deal with. You see a beautiful confident woman is admired by all no matter her age. It’s this inner strength and beauty, and a reliance on God that will help you to avoid the consequences that many young girls have to face growing up. It is this confidence and self-worth that will keep you pure, able to withstand temptations, and help you grow beautiful and meaningful friendships.
He created you to have a sensitive spirit so that you would be willing to care for others. He created you to be loving, kind, and gentle so that through you He can do mighty things. You see, power doesn’t come from mere strength…it comes from knowing your power source.
- I promise to teach you how to do all this by doing it myself first.
- I promise to listen and always be a safe place for you to talk and confide.
- I promise to be the kind of Mother who knows where her power comes from.
- I promise to be the kind of mother who teaches you about faith and God and all you’ve been created to be.
- I promise to be the kind of Mother who models self-worth and self-care.
- I promise to be the kind of Mother who teaches you to be feminine and strong.
- I promise to be the kind of Mother who teachers you to respect and love your husband and children; and, how to not lose yourself in the process.
Claire and Chloe…I want you to dream big. I want you to pray impossible prayers. I want you to have a faith that baffles the most seasoned of believers. I want you to know who you are and WHOSE you are and share this truth with those around you. I want you to be life changers. I want you to be world changers…and I promise to be right here beside you cheering you on every step of the way.
All my love,
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