“It’s in the small things that our character is developed, so we can handle the big things that we have been waiting for.”
This quote was something Mandy had shared last week during the live Inner Circle group coaching call. When the call ended, I got offline and started cleaning the house, while my little one was still at grandma’s. It was a typical mundane activity, but there I was thinking about the small things I could be thankful for, and all of a sudden what she had stated during the call, clicked.
I had a roof over my family’s head, a three-bedroom home we were renting, and we loved it. It was the little things.
There was a time when the roof over our heads was not ours. In 2012 we were overcome with medical debt, having being hospitalized for my illness and given birth to a new baby girl. Thankfully we had loving family members that took us in and gave us shelter. But I have to admit that was the saddest I’ve ever felt. Never in my life had I ever felt like more of a failure.
We were in an unfinished basement, with sheets we bought at a second hand store for walls, with a new baby girl and only my husband to bring in an income since I was too sick at the time to return to work.
It looked like it was never going to get better, the sun would never shine again, and every night when I went to sleep the world seemed darker than the days before. The last thing I always dwelled on before I fell asleep, was what I would tell my daughter if she was me in this same situation? Eventually that last question became the one thing-the one small thing, that would help me rebuild a life for my family like I had never imagined.
After a crucial conversation with Mandy and Raychel, who happen to be my besties, I was left with the challenge of actually answering that question.
What would I tell my little girl if she was walking through this?
First, I began to tell myself that rock bottom was a sturdy foundation. It’s just you and God at that point. So why couldn’t God be the rock for me? That mind shift was the single influential change that drove the success in my life for the next few years. I got real with my hopes and dreams, my sadness and fears.
I got real with asking God for the little things. I got real with asking for help and taking it one day at a time.
I set a goal to go back to school and graduate with a degree that I had always wanted. I wanted to be a nurse. And on top of that I had set a goal to be able to afford our own place.
“It’s the small things that develop our character.” And there I was with nothing left to lose, because I had felt like I had already lost it all.
Yet, I had things that even money could not buy. A family that loved me, friends who believed in me, a child to inspire me, and a God who’s grace was overflowing.
It was the small things like… signing up for school, applying for scholarships, showing up to class, finishing the assignments, passing the board exams that led to one big future career that was financially going to change the life of my family forever.
It was the small things like… saving money every month, researching affordable rentals, and making phone calls that led us to be able to get our own place, and be able to pay the bills.
It was the small things like… quitting my first nursing job outside of school to dive into the unknown world of travel nursing that changed the way I was able to support our family like never before, to be a more present wife and mother, and finally be able to look back on my rock bottom and see what a HUGE achievement that is.
So there I was cleaning our home, washing my scrubs, and listening to Mandy’s words in my heart. It was the small things.
If you’re in a place where the sky is dark, or you’ve reached a place where you have forgotten what it feels like to be thankful, take a moment to look at the hardest things you have walked through.
Write them down.
Take a moment to look at the things you have around you. Write down 3 things you are thankful for. It’s the small things.
Big Blue Couch Coaching is a place that inspires women to overcome and lead their families to success. As a member of the team, I’ve seen firsthand what this company has offered to those in their darkest moments. I’ve seen their Bible studies turn a community of women into overcomers.
I’ve seen them break down walls and build up warriors.
I’ve seen a group of women in their Inner Circle Facebook group set goals and reach them.
There is a whole world out there waiting for you to step into your calling. If you’re in a place where you are ready to set goals, however big or small, we want to encourage you to take a leap of faith and join us here.
We’re a community of people who want to celebrate the little things and rejoice in the big things we have accomplished through them.
I tell my daughter often that we can overcome anything we set our minds on overcoming.
More than I tell her she can be anything she wants to be.
Because when she actually does set a goal to step into her calling, she will know that even on the hardest days, we are overcomers.
And even when it looks like she has hit rock bottom, God will be there ready to hold her steady, and fight for her dreams.
One small little thing at time.
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About Miss Maddie
Madison Moericke (Miss Maddie) is our BFF and currently holds the honorable title of “Keeper of the Couch”. Yes, the big blue couch lives at her house right now. She currently works as a Travel Nurse, and lives in Bismarck with her husband and daughter. We are honored to have her as part of our team!