The Beauty in Living Unrushed
By: Mandy B. Anderson
There is beauty in living unrushed…
On Monday I stepped outside and let my toes squish in the grass. It was a beautiful, sunny afternoon and my soul was thirsty for an unrushed moment.
Before the fire of 2010, I rushed through everything. Hurry was my way of life.
Things changed after God gave Ajah B. back to us. You see there was a moment about two hours before the fire that I regret. I had gone home to let Ajah out and I was in a hurry to get back to work. She, on the other hand, was not in any hurry at all. She wanted to enjoy the sunshine and sniff the grass, the flowers, basically everything she could. My hurried impatience made me get a little frustrated with her and I dragged her back inside.
I regret that.
I regret it because had she died that day, that would have been our last moment together. Sometimes the things we regret can birth new habits in our lives. That’s what happened for me. After the fire, I made a personal vow to myself and to Ajah that I would slow down and enjoy our time together more.
Through the years I made due on that promise.
I slowed down and appreciated the warmth of the sun on my skin as I observed Ajah sunning herself on the warm pavement of the walking trail outside our apartment. We went on more walks together. It took us eight years to figure out that Ajah was a dog who enjoyed the park, so we took family trips to a wooded park in town and let her go on her slow, leisurely adventures without her leash. (She was never a dog that had any ambition to run; she was an unrushed dog through and through!) She was much happier the last half of her life, and I believe it’s because I chose to slow down and live unrushed when I was with her.
About ten months before Ajah died, we got a diagnosis that her health was bad and she most likely had a cancerous tumor that they couldn’t do a biopsy on because of its location.
We gave her pain meds twice a day and made her as comfortable as we could, but we knew that it wasn’t likely she would live another year. Taking care of her as her health declined required more patience than I realized I could possess. During this time, I hoped for another miracle, but I also sensed God working in my heart and preparing me for the arrival of the inevitable season of life without her.
I waited patiently through this long goodbye.
I savored every snuggle, every walk, every hug, and every puppy kiss. I cherished the good days and patiently gave her extra love on the bad days. Ultimately, I looked for opportunities to create unrushed moments with her that I could cherish in my heart forever. Our last few months with Ajah were lived with intention, and I have no regrets about how we loved that little fur-baby of ours.
This is the beauty of living unrushed – when you do it well, you cut down on the number of regrets you will have in your life. It will boost your hope, and you’ll be able to wait patiently for things that you never realized you could have patience for. It’s a beautiful dance.
I lived unrushed with Ajah, but honestly, I’m still learning how to live unrushed on a more consistent basis in every area of my life.
Some days I get it right, other days I don’t. There are times where I have unrushed words and unrushed thoughts, but my expectations are hurried. Other times I have unrushed faith but all other areas are running dry. Some days I’m unrushed with my husband while other days I’m totally hurried and miss important moments. (Like the year I totally ruined his birthday because of my rushed, judgmental and nit-picky attitude. Real proud moment there.) It’s a process; one that I will most likely be dancing with for the rest of my life. But I won’t lose hope and I won’t lose faith. I choose to believe that God is doing a deeper work in me through this unrushed journey and I choose to wait for it patiently.
What about you…
Do you struggle with rushing through life and not slowing down? Are words slipping out of your mouth that you wish you could take back? Have your expectations sabotaged your reality because you don’t stop to let the process take root?
Dear Friend, you have more patience than you realize. You can learn to dance to the beat of a patient heart, just like I have learned to do so. You can have unrushed thoughts, unrushed words, unrushed expectations, unrushed perseverance, and unrushed faith. You can, in fact, live a more peace-filled life.
But it won’t happen by accident. You must be intentional about it.
It begins with a slow and steady step. Put down your phone so you can just BE with the ones you love. Take a 5-minute coffee break in silence and just breathe. Walk outside just to enjoy the sunshine and the crisp air.
It is possible to live unrushed.
If you need help with living unrushed, then I invite you to join me in the upcoming UNRUSHED Faith Coaching Experience for Women. Together we will learn what it takes to dance to the beat of a patient heart. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to give your soul what it craves. Register TODAY at www.bigbluecouchcoaching.com/unrushed.
About Mandy B. Anderson:
Mandy B. Anderson is the CEO and Co-Founder of Big Blue Couch® Coaching, LLC. Born with Cystic Fibrosis, Mandy has walked the road of an Overcomer her entire life. She is passionate about helping others rise above their circumstances, be brave, and live beautifully whole. She is the author of four books and co-author of several guided journals. Mandy lives in North Dakota with her husband, Nate.